Fifty five is the age of the season and a lovely age it is too. When I turned fifty I wrote a list of things learnt and as half a decade has passed I have decided to update my list :
Things learnt by 55
Quiet is good. Quiet is very, very good.
Being a grandparent is the world’s most wonderful gift.
Read to your children, for all else follows.
Don’t give up on education and reskilling, no matter your age, or the length of the road in front of you.
Grey hair means freedom from the recolour schedule and no more fear of looking like a skunk at important events!
Find a good beautician because the hair is not only on the top of your head.
Now is the time to organise the rest of your life.
If seeking a sea or tree change, make sure that amenities are not too far away. You may be happy to drive to shops and doctors now, but in 10 0r 15 years it may not be so easy. Think, how long will it take an ambulance to get to you? Also, if buying as a couple, what are the plans for when there is only one of you? Can you handle where you live solo?
Sometimes, perhaps more often than you would like to admit, your adult children know better than you.
It is still important to have a job that interests you and gives you some motivation and is not just a pay check. You’re going to be working for a long time yet.
Exercise has to be more than moving from one end of the couch to the other.
You can learn healthy eating habits from your children.
Try to be the mother in law you wish you had been given.
Declutter your house so that your children don’t have to do it when you can’t.
Know when it is time to go into care – and do it. Your children should not be asked to give up their lives for you.
Adult daughters can be your best friend. Know the boundaries.
Life experience builds wisdom and confidence. You also realise the rat race is a farce as your ego no longer needs materialistic props.
Needs become quality not quantity.
Sharing laughter brings more meaning to life.
There is no answer to life, and life itself has no meaning – we create the meaning in our lives.
Being in your fifties is a best time of your life.